As part of my 20 Things to Know in your 20’s post I’ve been working with a series of bloggers to provide you with a little post filled with knowledge every Tuesday until I turn 22.
This weeks post is by Cathy! Be sure to check out her links at the bottom of this post!
Positivity and negativity work together in every aspect of life. So long as you have a balance of the two that’s not a problem, and it’s just an unavoidable part of life. The balance can be thrown off, however, and it can be hard to know exactly when that happened. Sometimes it is beneficial to remove yourself from the situation either temporarily or permanently in order to be the best version of yourself. So, when do you take yourself out of a negative environment?
When we think of a specific thing many times, we know it holds a certain level of importance to us. We think of loved ones a lot, along with fond memories and exciting plans. Just as we often have exciting things on the mind, we also have things that we worry about. Getting results we are nervous about, feeling like we will be stuck in the same routine forever, or toxic friendships/relationships. I use these three examples because I feel like they show different levels of urgency.
The Short Term
If you are worried about test results or a reply from a risky text, you may feel like the world is ending. That’s completely okay. For situations like these, you may benefit from physically removing yourself from the situation. Everyone is different, however the common factor in the short-term negative environment is that it won’t last forever, and single events do not define you – no matter the outcome.
The Long Term
When a negative feeling is creeping into your daily thoughts you will probably question why it’s there, and your gut instinct might be telling you something isn’t right. If you know, you know. This doesn’t mean you have to rush. You can very well take the time to accept the loss of what you once knew before you even remove yourself from the situation, if that makes you feel more in control. Whatever your negative environment may be, don’t compromise your health and/or happiness for the sake of consistency. Everything happens for a reason.
The phrase “when one door closes, another one opens” holds true, and I’m sure there are plenty of times you can look back on where this has been the case. Don’t let a cloud of negativity hold you back from the opportunities beyond the door.
– Cathy
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